8 Favorite Quotes From the Book “When Narcissism Comes to Church” by Chuck DeGroat


Our province is now on GCQ (general community quarantine). This means some establishment will open but we are still required face mask, social distancing and quarantine pass. Those precautions will apply to churches. My wife and I will go to church tomorrow. Although some parts will still undergo ECQ (enhanced community quarantine) because of the numbers of COVID-19 cases. Please continue to pray that God will give us Christians wisdom as we make decisions concerning these changes.

Anyways, here’s some quotes from the book, When Narcissism Comes to Church by Chuck DeGroat published by InterVarsity Press. If you like these quotes, please get the book by clicking here.

” In ministry, pastors use their congregations to validate a sense of identity and worth. The church becomes an extension of the narcissistic ego, and its ups and downs lead to seasons of ego inflation and ego deflation for the pastor. Today social media platforms add to this mix. Because his sense of identity is bound up in external realities, his sense of mission is wavering and unmoored, often manifesting in constantly shifting
visions and programs, frequent dissatisfaction with the status quo, and anxious engagement with staff and members.”

” These are traits and tendencies that do not belong in a follower of Jesus, and yet in ministry settings narcissistic leaders can corral great power and may wield their power in cruel, manipulative, devious, and exploitative ways. Indeed, their rage is often accompanied by a simmering jealousy
of anyone who steals attention, power, or admiration from them. “

“Power, privilege, and entitlement are expressed in toxic ways by narcissistic pastors. This can be especially dangerous when the narcissist has the spiritual power of an ecclesial office. Indeed, he may be less questioned than a CEO or politician because of a spiritual sense of entitlement as a one “working for the Lord” (Colossians 3:23 NIV). The ecclesial authority prompts followers to a holy deference to his calling and role. “

“Perhaps the most frightening thing about narcissism’s bite is that it often comes without leaving a physical wound.”

“Spiritual and emotional abuse have much in common, but spiitual abuse bears a particularly sinister twist, as principles and maxims of faith are wielded as weapons of command and control, and faith leaders abuse their power for the sake of feeding their own unmet emotional needs.”

” Jesus is the living antidote to narcissism. He enters into the waters of narcissism, suffers in the waters of narcissism, is crucified in the waters of narcissism, and yet rises through the waters to redeem and restore the entire cosmos.”

“The evidence of ecclesial health is that everyone is built up, growing in maturity, moving from the emotional dysregulation of infancy to emotional and spiritual centeredness and stability in adulthood. “

” There is the public self we present to the world, the private self we share selectively with others, the blind self that is clear to others but which reminds hidden to us, and the undiscovered self which, like the shadow, contains unseen and unconscious aspects of ourselves.”


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